Turning 80! A beginning or an end?

Now that I have turned 80, I ask myself: What have you learned? What lessons will make the years ahead easier? The motto I plan to live by: Never want anything or anyone so badly that you compromise common sense.

I have wanted a particular person or family member to like me, include me in their life. My success rate is abysmal. What did I accomplish? I gave up my power. When I was a working therapist, I used to ask clients in distress, Who’s the boss? Meaning: Who’s in charge of your emotions? You or the person you want to win over. We all know what happens when you give up your power. You pretend you’re angry with the other person, but, you’re really angry with yourself.

I remember wanting promotions, change of venue, bigger dollars only to discover the universe had other plans for me. The other plans, in hindsight, were always better for my career and personal growth.

Today I work at being my own best friend. I enjoy my company and my writing. Everything else is extra. If someone in my life decides to compete with me, and that happens often, I let go and love myself. If someone wants MORE and their life is a disappointment, they cannot take their frustration out on me. I let go. I find managers of some stores do not train their employees to be kind to customers. Too many young men and women working behind them counteract their frustrations. I stop! I say: I don’t want to be a part of this negativity and let go. I find a store where customers are treasured.

I keep the following thought above my desk. I’ll share:

Some people aren’t loyal to you…

They are loyal to their need of you…

Once their need changes,

So does their loyalty.