Forgiveness

Why is forgiveness so difficult? Why do we hold on to anger? There has to be some benefit. It takes so much energy (I believe negative thinking takes up twice the space as positive thinking) to maintain a grudge. So, what is the benefit? A need to be right when we are wronged? We feel emotionally injured and the only way to level the hurt is to maintain a strong, unwavering sense of rightness? Is that it?

Sorry, lots of questions and you may be here for answers.

Another question! Does holding on to the anger, not forgiving, keep us from taking responsibility for our part in the breakdown of a relationship?

If we do forgive, we make room for love. Not necessarily for THAT person, but in general. Each day, depending on how well we sleep or what else is on our minds, we have just so much energy. I know for me, my energy level changes every day.

If I choose, and it is a choice, to be angry at someone or some situation I would like the opportunity to replay so I come out a winner, there is not that much space left for love. And I want to be about love. My father taught me: Love is the answer. He’s been proven right every time.

Life is so much more joyful when you focus on love. You see trees differently; you see the sky differently. Or, should I say, when you are invested in love, you see trees and the sky.

I guess what I’m saying is by not forgiving you miss the beauty of life because you can’t get a positive from a negative.