My friend Marco, who lives in Sweden, read my blog BULLYING, and sent the following response:
When you love yourself, you cannot be a bully. There will be that inner voice to correct you. If you allow yourself to consciously harm another person, it must be due to self-hatred.
I think bullying is an expession of that self-hatred, that disappointment in one's own life, actions, history.Imagine spending your energy in making someone else's life miserable just to ignore your own problems. Not facing them.
Maybe, if we have the energy, possibility and strength, we should face the bully and remind him or her of their behavior. It won't change a thing, often it's too late or too painful for them to change. But we all need a mirror at times, to confront us with our own actions, behavior.
Then we can look ourseves in the eye knowing we gave the other person an opportunity to change. Having said that, our biggest responsibility is for us to take care of ourselves. By raising ourselves above the bullying, we can be an example of how to deal with hatred. By loving ourselves.
Thank you, Marco. Much appreciated.